How to love maturely without falling back into the mystical trap of illusion

By Anelly Aya Anelly Aya
  Sometimes the night greets me with a strange sensation — not so much pain as a question , one that slips into the periphery of my thoughts like a light unsure of whether it wishes to remain. After every disappointment there arrives this moment: the moment when you no longer ask “Why did it happen?” but begin to listen to a quieter, almost prayerful inner register: “How can it not happen again?” Not as self-blame. Not as fear of falling once more. But as the desire to learn to love without breaking apart, without turning love into a field where your own shadows outweigh the light. I write these lines as if in a diary, though I’m not entirely sure whether I’m speaking to myself, to time, or to that invisible presence I sometimes call soul , sometimes God , and sometimes simply my own inner ground . Here I want to gather not rules, but orientations; not boundaries, but supports; not prohibitions, but quiet, almost invisible paths toward maturity. Paths that do not reject the myst...
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Understanding and Healing Attention Deficit Disorder - Insights from Gabor Maté's 'Scattered Minds

By Anelly Aya Anelly Aya

 Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) is a topic that has garnered significant attention in recent years. Often seen as a behavioral issue, it is essential to explore the underlying causes and potential for healing. Gabor Maté's book, "Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder," offers valuable insights into this complex condition. In this blog post, we'll delve into the key ideas presented by Maté and how they can reshape our understanding and approach to ADD.

The Holistic Approach to ADD

Maté's central argument is that ADD is not just a mere behavioral problem, but rather a condition deeply rooted in genetics, early experiences, and environmental factors. This holistic perspective challenges the traditional medical approach, which often focuses on managing symptoms with medication. By understanding the emotional and psychological factors contributing to ADD, Maté suggests that individuals can find more effective and lasting ways to cope and even thrive.

The Role of Early Experiences

Maté emphasizes the importance of early childhood experiences in the development of ADD. He suggests that adverse experiences, such as traumatic events or an emotionally distant family environment, can contribute to the development of ADD symptoms. These experiences can wire a person's brain to be more prone to distractibility, impulsivity, and difficulties with concentration. Recognizing and addressing these early experiences is a crucial step towards healing.

The Necessity of Compassion and Support

A central theme of Maté's work is the significance of a compassionate and understanding environment for individuals with ADD. Instead of labeling them as "troublemakers" or "lazy," it is essential to provide support and acceptance. A nurturing and non-judgmental environment can make a significant difference in the lives of those with ADD, helping them build self-esteem and resilience.

The Potential for Personal Growth

While living with ADD presents unique challenges, Maté's book highlights the potential for personal growth and self-acceptance. By understanding the underlying causes and addressing them, individuals can develop coping strategies, resilience, and a stronger sense of self. The focus shifts from trying to fit into a mold to embracing one's uniqueness.

Challenging Stigmatization

Maté's work challenges the stigmatization often associated with ADD. It reframes the condition as a complex interplay of factors rather than a character flaw. This shift in perspective can lead to greater empathy and understanding in society, ultimately helping those with ADD lead more fulfilling lives.

Conclusion

Gabor Maté's "Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder" provides a fresh and holistic perspective on ADD. By acknowledging the role of genetics, early experiences, and environmental factors, Maté encourages a more compassionate approach to understanding and healing ADD. This approach emphasizes the importance of support, self-acceptance, and personal growth for individuals living with this condition. Ultimately, it challenges the stigmatization and paves the way for a more empathetic society where those with ADD can thrive.

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